Lesson Two: Envisioning

Envision your outcomes.

Back to anxiety, guys and dolls. Envision your outcomes. Be honest with yourself when you envision your outcome. You might not like your choices but that doesn't mean you can change them. For fuck's sake, let's say that your outcome is bad no matter what, and you've got to make a choice between bad and worse, and your anxiety is hitting a ridiculous crescendo ... what do you do?

What CAN you do? That's the point of controlling anxiety. Most of the time, you cannot do anything. It's not about finding a happy place. It's not about feeling comfortable. It's not about you finding some miraculous way around a pickle.....it's about you dealing with it.

So Lesson Two is about starting to deal with it. Envision the end. Envision your options.

Anxiety= something you DO NOT WANT TO HAPPEN.

But it most likely will still happen. So taking your preventative measures, or even your preparatory measures, will make you ready for the end result. Stop dreading the actual result and start preparing for what you fear. This will not only stomp out your anxiety, but it will also make you a person that is ready for ANYTHING.

Nothing is going to fix you. Nothing is going to fix your issues. Nothing is going to make life OK. You need to adjust life to make it fit you. Happiness is wonderful and so many people forget that it is custom-made for what you design for yourself.

This is where losing yourself comes in. Anxiety makes you feel like you're less of yourself. It makes you forget the parts about yourself that you love ... and the parts you feel confident in.

Never forget your strengths. Never forget your autonomy. Never forget what your anxiety tries to steal from you.

Envision. Don't just envision a few moments in the future. Envision what you want for yourself. Envision the fact that it's not all gold and silver .... envision the fact that things will force you to endure and that you will be that much stronger for it. Envision that you are who you wanted yourself to be. And make yourself more.

Drive. Drive hard. Forget the fluttering in your stomach. Forget the random pain. Forget the inability to focus.

Remember. Remember that you are you wholly and you do not need to apologize for it.